Rosemary Bailey

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Scarlet Ribbons

A Priest with AIDS

     Honourable, impassioned and tender
— Sara Maitland

     A quiet triumph of the spirit
— Library Journal

     A soul-searching testimony
— The Observer

Rosemary Bailey gives an unsentimental yet heartbreaking account of her brother’s life, from his strict upbringing by a fundamentalist father, through ordination as an Anglican priest, then gay liberation, to his diagnosis with AIDS and a long debilitating illness that he never allowed to defeat him.

Rosemary captures the sad drama that consumes Simon Bailey, rector of the South Yorkshire village of Dinnington, as he breaks the news of his homosexuality and his illness, first to friends, then to close parishioners, and finally to his family, the church authorities and the media.

While slowly succumbing to AIDS, the Rev. Bailey continues to hold services in the parish church, while his parishioners care for him around the clock through his final months.

The story was the subject of the BBC Everyman documentary, Simon’s Cross.

Reviews of the first edition of Scarlet Ribbons

A priest can be anything, greedy, uncaring – and heterosexual. But if you are homosexual, you can be the most beautiful person in the world, but not a priest…

Rosemary Bailey has written a tender and soul-searching testimony of the progress and implications of her brother’s illness and of the love his ministry inspired in his parishioners … His struggle to accept the AIDS virus ravaging his body is remarkable for its courage and determination, as is his insistence that priests are flawed human beings like everybody else, and merely act as conduits between God and the world. Simon Bailey lived two years longer than his doctors expected him to, finished two books and continued to lead his community through the cycle of the Christian year until a few days before his death in 1995, at the age of 40. His pragmatic intelligence and impressive sense of responsibility led him to take a stubborn stand against the hierarchy in matters such as the ordination of women and the issue of sexuality and the priesthood, for he came to believe that his homosexuality contributed positively to his vocation. His sister describes with wonderment the traditional rituals he reintroduced in his services, and her documenting of the practical life of a church is fascinating. Above all, the dignity she discovers both in Simon and in all those who loved and supported him is inspiring. — Emily Ormond, The Observer

The book, unpretentious and geared to simplicity, has earmarks of a classic work in its genre… It is unabashedly honest – stripped to essentials, sparing no one’s feelings, refusing to yield to sentimentality – and at the same time, extraordinarily sensitive and tender. — Lambda Book Report

Successfully integrating her voices of loving sister and dispassionate reporter, the author… tells the life story of her brother, a gay priest in the Church of England. Drawing from his journals and sermons, from interviews with parishioners, other family members, and friends, the author traces the rocky path her brother walked from his youthful awareness of sexual difference, to his… years of ministry to Dinnington parish, and his final physical decline under the tender watch and care of his devoted parishioners. Much of the drama… unfolds in the step-by-step process by which the priest admits friends, close parishioners, family, church hierarchy, and the press, in that order, to the knowledge of his illness, a sequence that moves the author frankly to confess how “immensely sad” it is that she, her siblings, and parents were not among the first to be trusted with the news. That unself-justifying candor is part of what makes Bailey the perfect memorialist of her brother… The ambiguities in Simon’s life that the author preserves in her memorial of him will deepen and extend the impression he leaves. — Kirkus

This profound story tells of the life, and complicated death, of Simon Bailey, the Anglican priest in a Yorkshire mining village. After struggling to accept his identity as a gay male and becoming sexually active, Simon was faced with a foreshortened life when, in the early 1980s, he found out that he had AIDS. He told no one until he fell ill. In response, his friends, family, and parishioners rallied around him with care and support. This beautifully written book by Simon’s sister, a journalist, candidly takes things that may be unfamiliar, including gay sexuality, AIDS, Anglican spirituality, and English church life, and makes them familiar and human. This quiet story of profound faith and courage, in which the cross Simon bore led not only to death but to a quiet triumph of the spirit, is recommended for all public libraries. — Library Journal

Rosemary Bailey

Rosemary Bailey was born in Halifax, Yorkshire, and remained deeply attached to her native region until her death in February 2019. This was her first book, the story of her brother, the Anglican priest Simon Bailey, and the remarkable support he received from his Yorkshire mining village parish.

She wrote three further memoirs about her life in the French Pyrenees, another region she has grown to know and love. The best-selling Life in a Postcard (Bantam Books 2002) described living in a mountain village, the restoration of a ruined monastery and the history of the monks.

The Man who Married a Mountain (Bantam Books 2005) followed the romantic 19th century mountaineer Sir Henry Russell-Killough in his quest for the sublime. 

Love and War in the Pyrenees (Weidenfeld & Nicolson 2008) is an investigation of the Second World War, combining her own travels with contemporary interviews, documents and letters, described by the Jewish Chronicle as “a quiet triumph of historical reconstruction.” 

Bailey was married to the biographer Barry Miles and had one son.

On World AIDS Day, we publish an edited extract from Rosemary Bailey’s memoir of her brother Simon, Rector of the pit village of Dinnington, who became known as “the Vicar with AIDS” after he was the subject of an Everyman television programme. The extract includes a reflection by Simon himself.

Read “Dying to Live” in Church Times

My brother was the ‘priest with Aids’ – here’s how he turned a whole community around

We learned that my brother, Rev Simon Bailey, an Anglican priest, was HIV Positive in 1992. It was seven years after he was diagnosed. He had told no-one until then, but he was becoming increasingly ill. Our father, a Baptist minister, had died earlier that year and he told my mother first, just before she was due to visit me in London and so she had the task of telling me. (And we could support each other. Simon, the experienced priest, thought like that.) We’d had our suspicions – my sister, a nurse, had checked out his medications, but it was still devastating news. We sat and wept for hours.

Read full Telegraph article here

Video link to BBC TV’s Look North studio in Leeds, with Rosemary Bailey talking about her brother’s death from AIDS while rector of Dinnington in South Yorkshire.

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TitleScarlet Ribbons: A Priest with AIDS
SizeTrade paperback, 6 x 9 in (15.24 x 22.86 cm)
List Prices$19.95; UK £16.95; EU €19.50
PublishedJuly 29, 2017